Inferiority Complex? Way Out...

I have read many things about Dr. Martin Luther King Jnr, and I admire everything about him; his imperfections inclusive.

As exceptional as I think he was, he understood what inferiority complex is. He described it as one of the most stagnating, strangulating and crushing conditions of the human personality. This ‘on point’ description can only come from someone who had once dealt with an inferiority complex, so it’s no big deal that you feel the way you do.

I have also dealt with an inferiority complex at some point in my life and even now, it still sometimes tries to rear its ugly head… All we can do is fight…FIGHT it before it crushes us.

There will always be somebody more brilliant, more pretty or handsome… Somebody somewhere will always seem better… but you are who you are and until you accept yourself; your strengths and weaknesses, your inadequacies… you will always feel inferior even though you are not. Change what you can, accept that which you cannot change. Stop looking to others for validation…you don’t need it.

Remind yourself every day how great you are and do not compare yourself with anyone. Never forget that our differences as humans do not make us superior or inferior to one another… it simply makes us exactly who we are….UNIQUE.

Oh! I should probably remind you of those people who have made it their duty in life to say demeaning things to you; some are serious, but a good number of them are just joking. They will say with so much joy and humour “you are too black and that makes you ugly” OR “haha, why do you always wear clothes like this, it’s so cheap” OR “if only you were fair, you would be fine o”… At times like this, this is what I think you need to do…

Do you remember how the Bible says to resist the devil and he will flee? Exactly, you resist them immediately, don’t accept such words quietly, jokes or not. I don’t mean to fight them but respond and tell them firmly that your ‘blackness’ is what makes you beautiful and it’s a pity they think otherwise. You see, when you just keep quiet and watch them, those words unconsciously settles in your heart (whether you think so or not). You keep replaying them; sometimes chuckling at its silliness but somehow it affects the image you have of yourself…. And then the complex is born.

No one can make you feel inferior without your permission… don’t give them that power… Resist them, and just like the devil, they will flee…
It’s no motivation… it’s just the truth…