If you are watching the ongoing Big Brother Naija (Lockdown), whether, on Television or twitter, you must have heard these two terms flying around.
One of the female housemates used the terms a few times when describing her relationship with two male housemates. She is mentally attracted to the smart Mr. A with whom she has deep and intellectual conversations. She is physically attracted to the sexy Mr. B with whom she flirts and jokes.
She enjoys Mr. B’s attention and would want to date him but she’s concerned about what would happen once the physical attraction fizzles out and it would, after sex. She has no romantic interest in Mr. A but enjoys her conversations with him and would like them to stay friends even though he wants more.
Long story short, it appears her ideal man is Mr. B with Mr. A’s brain.
I think both are important for any long-lasting relationship, so, I won’t be asking which one supersedes the other. I know it would be hard to date someone I do not find physically attractive, and it would be as hard to stay in a relationship with someone with whom I can’t have deep conversations.
I don’t ever want to have to choose. But if the die was cast, and a choice must be made, what would be your choice?
Sexy or Smart?
*Originally published 7 August 2020