In a marriage, two shall become one, and not in the sense of swapping bodies but in that they become a unit.
So, let’s paint a little picture here.
You have a close friend who hates (too strong? Okay, strongly dislikes) your spouse for no specific reason (at least not one known to you). The feeling may or may not be mutual. So, this hatred (sorry, strong dislike) may or may not include eyeing, hissing, and or outright disregard for your spouse.
What would you do?
Would you remain friends with such a person? After all, you are your own person and you’ve been friends before you met your spouse.
Or would you cut them off?
And would your actions be the same if you were merely dating?
I’m cutting that friend off. Period! And it won’t matter whether I’m married or not or whether my spouse hates her/him too. A friend who cannot give me a good reason or even a ‘good’ bad one, but still continues to outrightly disregard ‘boo’ has no respect for me. So, Girl, bye! or more accurately put, alaye koshi (that covers for both male and female).
*Originally published 27 November 2020